How to tell you’re no longer controlled by emotions.

Nobody on the face of the earth can argue the fact that we're all born into this world on an equal playing field, we all start as a blank canvass, susceptible to the polarities of environmental conditioning which will inescapably always have both positives and negatives. The standards we set ourselves, the moral codes we live by, behaviour habits we exhibit and the thought processes that drive our decisions within our earlier years of life are heavily, if not almost entirely influenced by the likes of our parents, family members and social circles. The modern day cultural and societal paradigms have become embedded in such type of conditioning or programming for better use of words.

To put this into context - nobody is born religious, if it not for the likes of “traditions” or the adherence to cultural expectations a lot of the world’s “mainstream” religions would have a much smaller audience to preach to.

As we enter the teenage years and our social spheres expand so do our capabilities in processing what is going on around us, we begin asking questions like: what is life; who am I or why am I here? Which are difficult questions to answer from any one offered source and requires going beyond what is served by our education systems. It’s becoming more apparent than ever that the awakening is taking place, the suppressed information of shady governmental goings on are becoming increasingly difficult to hide in the in the age of the internet from those hungry for answers.

Upon the realisation of the harsh realities neatly packaged and discreetly slotted into the world we experience, a lot of people share a common feeling of conflict against what they have been taught deep inside their being. These feelings are typically and best responded to with the pursuit of self-knowledge.

The unfortunate reality that we're faced with, even in the age of information is that most parents, despite intentions are not informed and fully aware of spirituality, the modalities of energy healing and in some cases are oblivious to governmental tyranny. So it goes without saying that if the parent is unaware, they're unable to pass that information down. That observation takes nothing away from parents generally and certainly does not mean that parents do not teach valuable lessons, as we positively pointed out our creators influence the majority of our beliefs and core values regarding life.

As we enter into adulthood, the influence of our parents fades more and more as we process new information and experiences daily. No human being is exempt from emotional pain, suffering and trauma and at some point in life will have their armies of demons to deal with. As adult’s we alone define and set the boundaries in which we live within and with that comes to responsibility to alleviate such suffering by reprogramming our minds and opening ourselves up to a healthier state of existence.

Emotions are an essential part of life they connect us to everything and everyone else on the planet which is why conscious regulation of emotion is so important. It’s great to be inspired and fuelled by emotion until our emotions completely replace logic and our behaviour becomes irrational. We must all go on our own individual journey of understanding and self-mastery of which everyone shares common characteristics that contribute to their sense of inner peace. It’s of our opinion that everyone with the gift of life should take steps to evolve consciously and spiritually to best benefit from life.

The question we must all ask ourselves is…. 

“Is it me or my emotions in control?”

You know the difference between emotion and feeling.

Throughout your challenge of emotional mastery, you will face an uncountable number of lessons to learn from each unique in its circumstance but the tell-tale signs of your progression are universal and to help you recognise them we put together following list.

We all have the same spectrum of emotions; the part that makes us all unique is our feelings. The human states of emotion and feeling contrary to common knowledge are distinctly different not just for the fact they’re processed in separate parts of the brain but on the basis that feelings are predominantly mental constructs and, on the other hand, emotions are mainly physical. Feelings are a combination of our standards, expectations, philosophies and beliefs all of which come together to cultivate that initial emotion we experience. Further to that, it helps determine how we “feel” about what is going on in our world.

Establishing a firm and clear distinction between feelings and emotions is vital to understanding the bigger picture.

You don’t react, you respond.

What everybody needs, but not enough allow themselves is time to process what they’re going through. Many people seem to operate on what could be considered an emotional autopilot, failing to consciously analysis each new situation for the experience that it is, nobody is privileged enough to escape traumatic experiences that trigger intense emotions, it’s breaking out of the cycle of automatically reacting without analysing which is the key. Without the analysis you cannot consciously respond accordingly to your situation. Choosing your plan of action and responding is much more self-empowering knowing you manifested your solution opposed to being sucked into unsupportive cycles of stress and suffering by conceding to your emotions.

One Love, One Respect.

We have all heard the phrase “Be the bigger person” or “don’t lower yourself to their level” and in times of frustration it can seem like the most difficult thing to have to do. Remember just because you’re spiritual or consciously aware doesn't mean that you can’t lose your temper or feel frustrated or even angry at times, that is normal. However what isn't normal is the belief that the strength and power it takes responding to negative, ignorant or even abusive behaviour with love, respect or compassion is any form of weakness.

To be clear, just because you are spiritual does not mean you cannot feel frustrated and we’re not saying that you should ever just accept any negativity directed your way. You can still be defensive, direct and assertive while maintaining kindness at all times. People may mistake your kindness for weakness, remember don't be angry at their mistake. You have presented that person a chance to learn and accept kindness into their life. People will also reject your kindness but do not be disheartened in your intentions, the people who have been treated the worst find it the hardest to accept kindness so be indiscriminate with your judgement when your kindness is rejected.

When we understand and refuse to let our emotions control us, then a loving, respectful and compassionate oneness flows through our engagements and interactions. Two wrongs don’t make a right and having the awareness that reacting to abuse with abuse is non-constructive frees you from such low vibratory energy.

Instead of holding onto challenging emotions, we let them go

Harbouring emotions like fear, anger and jealousy can be destructive if you allow them to go unresolved for too long. Certain emotions present in certain situations are of course vital to survival but in reality for the average person those situations are few and far between. Life is a gift, in the world in which infinite possibilities are imaginable so clearly designed for us its inhabitants to enjoy, yet remain a significant amount of people in the world are living from day to day constantly battling ongoing waves of feelings from stress to anger, fear and disorientation even rage and inadequacy? The truth is they have not learnt to let go of the past.

Regulating emotions like fear and anger so that they no longer dominate our feelings and drive behaviours is an essential part of a balanced lifestyle. Never be ashamed to embrace and accept what you process and how it makes you feel as it is all part of the human experience. By processing them, we have the opportunity to gain insight and heal ourselves by taking what positives can be drawn from the situation. After extracting the positives, that’s when we can release and let go, by consciously acknowledging the release you dispel and almost repute the re-manifestation of those negative feelings.

You exercise healthy mental wellbeing.

The mental health condition of the world is in the worst condition ever recorded during medical history, of course, there are millions of complex individual psychological and environmental variables that trigger such states of mind. A factor that cannot be ignored as a critical contributor to mental health problems is the high level of distractions that we're targeted with in this age of consumerism by the media and society. The unfortunate fact is with everyone being unique there is no clear-cut cure or solution to mental health problems.

The best course of action which is commonly misconceived and overlooked is a combination of professional and self-administered psychotherapy alongside maintaining a good physical health. Most people automatically think of the pharmaceutical response to mental health issues unaware that the success of these drugs as a treatment merely restoring balance to the body’s chemical production is relatively small.

Ultimately to be able to live and enjoy life to our full potential there is no space for such destructive and debilitating emotions to set in. We must understand that the both depression and anxiety are not just emotional state’s; they’re feelings. Sadness is the root and base of depression as fear is to anxiety and so it is those emotions we need to process consciously upon each experience so that they no longer influence our feelings about life. The lessons we learn from our previous experiences and how we respond and react to each situation are programmed into our subconscious and can play a toxic part in creating harmful mental states. When we learn to reprogram our beliefs and philosophies, we learn how to release from the shackles of core emotions that can hold us back.